Irene du Plooy is my very best friend who has long decided to focus on her career rather than dating. But she still hopes that the right guy will find her.
Here’s her dating advice for guys who are considering a date with a successful career woman. If you’re feeling intimidated by her, Irene’s got just the advice for you.
Most of you guys have been searching for the right match in life. Then it happens; the career driven, 30-something bombshell comes along who’s so independent and secure she practically knocks your socks off!
So how do you seriously grab her attention? How do you keep her interested while also giving her the space she needs to keep those awesome qualities that made you fall in love with her in the first place?
It’s simple, so listen up!
Got Your Stuff in Order?
Firstly, make sure you know what the hell you want. This type of woman isn’t going to display childish behavior. Requests like ‘send me a picture’ or ‘what are you wearing‘ isn’t her style.
She has a job. An important one. She doesn’t sext or entertain nonsense. She knows her worth and where she is going. She wants to know that you have your act together.
She wants to know if you’re prepared to stick it out for the long haul, or if are not just looking for cheap thrills. She is not the one-night stand type, but rather the once in a lifetime type.
Let her get away and you will regret it forever!
Most importantly, she WANTS you, but she certainly does not NEED you.
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not here to put you off dating the career driven woman. The benefits go both ways. If you treat her correctly, she’ll certainly return the favor. It’s a win-win situation!
Are You Well Matched?
Career woman are independent and successful, and you should be too. If know what you want out of life, you’ll be clearer about what you want in a partner.
Though she is a busy woman, she still wants to know you care. An unexpected text now and then letting her know you are thinking of her, counts for a lot. Grand gestures are also amazing. But remember that life is all about the little things, so don’t rely too much on material ways to win her heart.
She has money, she does not need yours. She is financially stable, so your money does not impress her. How you treat her and others does!
As the saying goes ‘the character of a man can be judged by the way he treats those that can do nothing for him’. She wants to know who you are and whether you are the person she wants to spend her time with.
A woman of this stature, doesn’t care how much money you spend on her. She values how much time you invest in her. That’s what truly counts to an independent, self-driven career woman.
Have a Healthy Attitude Towards Money
If you are taking her on a first date, she will probably offer to go Dutch. As enticing as that may sound, you should absolutely pay the full bill and tip the waiter well. You will also gain some points if you treat your waiter well.
No-one likes a restaurant Scrooge McDuck!
I’ll remind you that this is not about the money, it’s about the principal. A woman like this appreciates chivalry and in a man who has a good attitude towards money.
Pay off your debt! No-one likes a guy who is neck deep in credit card bills and can’t afford to start a life with someone.
You can be guaranteed that she has savings and is planning for her retirement. She wants to be sure that you are as responsible for your future as she is about hers.
If you don’t have any savings, remedy that today!
Chivalry is NOT Dead!
Women can say what they want, but there is nothing sexier than a man who opens a door and pulls out a chair for his lady.
She is not weak, she can do it all for herself. But it just shows how much you respect her when you go that extra mile.
Can you Keep Up?
Supporting her career aspirations—truly doing so, not just saying you do—also counts a lot toward a sustainable relationship with the strong independent type. Giving her the freedom she desires to maintain that independence while still showing your dedication is gold to the career driven woman.
Don’t be Needy
Giving her the third degree before or after she goes out is just sad. Don’t do it!
Give her some space. Asking her where she’s going, who she’ll be with and what time she’ll be back is the quickest way to get yourself thrown off the love-wagon. Be strong. You’ll be okay without her for a few hours.
Don’t overwhelm her with calls and texts when she’s out with the girls. Rather send a short ‘hope you have an awesome evening, can’t wait to see you later’ kind of message. This shows her you trust her, and more importantly that you’re secure in the relationship and yourself.
Taking this course of action will probably lead her to volunteer the information, rather than being felt forced to do so.
One of her major pet peeves will be a man who wants to be served in the household. We are not in a restaurant, so if you want your food dished up and served to you on a platter, go to a restaurant and pay for it.
In her house you are equal partners. You cook and clean together and are both responsible for a clean, organized home. This isn’t Ancient Greece where women dote on a man’s every need. No way! When you’re dating the career girl, pull your weight or get out.
Growing as a Couple
The goal is to grow as a successful couple. The only way to do that is to trust each other, be honest, respect each other, communicate, and place integrity above all.
Don’t run away from small issues that may annoy you, but rather implore the ‘let’s talk about this’ approach. After all, how can she fix an issue if she does not know it exists.
Remember, the non-communicative passive aggressive silent treatment is very off-putting to a success driven, goal oriented woman who does not have time for nonsense.
Without straightforward open-ended conversations, she will be kicking you out the door quicker than you walked in.
In conclusion, be smart, and always remember: her time is precious, so spend it wisely. Happy dating!