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Conquering Your Shyness – 9 Dating Tips for Introverted Guys

Reaching out to someone new is scary! More for some than others. For me, it’s a case of sweaty palms, increased heart rate and fumbling over my words. If you’re an introvert, you can relate. Introverts have a hard time dating because socializing doesn’t come naturally to us. We feel safe behind our phone screens. It’s the face-to-face interaction that’s difficult. Online dating has definitely taken a backseat in my life. There are many reasons why I am not doing it right now, and one of them is because I don’t want to hide anymore. I really want to step out of my comfort zone and meet someone organically. I’m tired of sharing my attention with more than one person. And I’m tired of having to share someone I like with other potential “candidates”. It’s nothing personal. Online dating just isn’t for me. Simple as that. A friend of mine [...]

By | 2018-01-26T16:51:17+00:00 January 26th, 2018|Categories: Uncategorized|1 Comment

3 Secrets to Loving People More Fully

  The thing about love is that it cannot be quantified. People can throw around biological “love hormone” terms like oxytocin and dopamine. They can say that love is a survival mechanism necessary for procreation. But in the end, love is too unpredictable to measure. You can’t explain why you love one person so hard, and feel nothing for another. You can’t explain the horrors of jealousy and fear in a relationship—and to what point that horror can escalate. You can’t explain why you simply CANNOT stop loving someone—even though you know you should. Which is probably why you read this blog. Because where science fails (and it does), solidarity takes its place. Yes, we may all experience love in different ways, but at least we can look at each other and empathize with each other over the confusion and volatility that is… LOVE.   A Lesson in Love I [...]

By | 2018-01-25T11:31:06+00:00 January 23rd, 2018|Categories: Blog|2 Comments

Why Do Breakups Have to Be So Hard? 12 Remedies

Remember when Lily broke up with Marshall in How I Met Your Mother? Man, I really felt for that guy.   Today I was supposed to post a guest blog about how to approach intimidating women. But the truth is, my life is a mess right now. A past relationship has gradually taken much emotional toll on me, and I’m sitting right in the middle of the aftermath. Picking yourself up after a failed relationship—especially an abusive one—is a lot like picking yourself up by your own bootstraps. It seems impossible. But it’s not. It can take a long time to get over someone you loved and lost. But I have some tips that have helped me over the past 3 weeks. Breakups are hard. But they don’t have to be that hard. Here are ways you can ease the process a little.   1.      Evaluate Your Value—DAILY One of [...]

By | 2018-01-25T11:59:26+00:00 December 28th, 2017|Categories: Blog|6 Comments
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7 Health Tips to Up Your Dating Game

When I started dating after my divorce, I remember making a conscious decision to live healthier. Not only did I want to find an awesome, beautiful woman; but I also wanted to make sure that I was happy within myself. If I wanted my next relationship to work I needed confidence, energy and sound emotional wellbeing. As a health writer I knew enough about nutrition & exercise to put my new goal into practice. So I did. Two years down the line I can say that all my efforts were worth it. I’ve lost weight, feel more energetic and my skin & eyes are brighter than they were in my twenties. Now I’d like to share some of these health strategies with you. If you’re currently on the dating scene and want to up your game, adopt the following habits and get that confidence boost you need to find your [...]

By | 2018-01-07T06:25:23+00:00 November 23rd, 2017|Categories: Blog|1 Comment
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8 Essential Tips to Dating the Career Driven Woman

Irene du Plooy is my very best friend who has long decided to focus on her career rather than dating. But she still hopes that the right guy will find her. Here’s her dating advice for guys who are considering a date with a successful career woman. If you’re feeling intimidated by her, Irene’s got just the advice for you. --- Most of you guys have been searching for the right match in life. Then it happens; the career driven, 30-something bombshell comes along who’s so independent and secure she practically knocks your socks off! So how do you seriously grab her attention? How do you keep her interested while also giving her the space she needs to keep those awesome qualities that made you fall in love with her in the first place? It’s simple, so listen up!   Got Your Stuff in Order? Firstly, make sure you know [...]

By | 2017-11-16T09:37:27+00:00 November 16th, 2017|Categories: Blog|4 Comments
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Dating the Guy with Commitment Issues

  My girlfriend made me write this blog. She made me say that I have commitment issues. There, I said it.   Okay, she’s right. I do. I’m one of those guys who believes in true love, but I’m sceptical when I find it.   A lot of guys out there have the same problem. And you poor ladies have to date us!   Understanding a guy with commitment issues is a good way to solve many of the problems that come along.   Writing from the perspective of someone who has commitment issues, I want to help you understand what you can expect from—and how you can deal with—your cold-footed boyfriend.   How Does Fear of Commitment Manifest? How do you know if your guy has commitment issues? There are some early signs that you might notice. There are also signs that will show up more vividly later on. [...]

By | 2017-11-21T07:03:16+00:00 November 9th, 2017|Categories: Blog|1 Comment
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A Crazy Dating Story by Sasha

  My friend Sasha not only has an awesome personality, she's also had some pretty far out experiences with dating over the years. Before Sasha met her husband, she delved into the world of online dating. You won't believe this wacky story.   They say you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince but they didn’t say that the frogs try their best to disguise themselves as princes! In July 2012 I was 21, hot off a fresh new break up and ready to mingle. I guess that was my first mistake. If any of you reading this have been on Facebook long enough, you know that there used to be a dating site called Zoosk that was linked right to your profile. This is where I met Steve. So Steve was your typical bad boy. Leather jacket, motor bike, shaved head, DJ at an [...]

By | 2017-11-21T07:05:34+00:00 October 12th, 2017|Categories: Uncategorized|0 Comments
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9 Safety Tips for First Time Online Daters

  Before Christel found her soulmate, she was on the online dating scene quite a bit. During this time she learnt to be cautious about who she gave her personal details to—and who she was willing to meet in person. Here are some safety tips for online dating that she’d like to share with you in this guest post, by Christel Coetzer. --- So you’re looking for the one. Many people are flocking to online dating sites to connect with their soul mates. To be fair, some are simply looking for company. The fact remains, online dating sites are becoming popular modern meeting places. From 2013 to 2015 the amount of young adults who use these platforms tripled. But don’t think the sites’ popularity only attracts young people. People of all ages love this unique way of making new friends. For some it doesn’t develop beyond friendships. Others meet up, [...]

By | 2017-11-21T07:06:14+00:00 September 28th, 2017|Categories: Blog|0 Comments
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8 Signs You’re Not Ready to Date Again

    Breakups are hard. No wait… A breakup is probably the hardest thing you will ever go through! I went through one recently and it was horrible. I never thought I’d be ready to date again. But then one day I got clarity. She was bad for me. I was bad for her. Now it’s time to move on and find the right girl. Before I started this journey I sat myself down for a very serious (and uncomfortable) conversation. I asked myself some important questions about why I wanted to start dating again. You may be at the same crossroads right now if you’re reading this. I want to give you some sound advice on being ready to date again. If any of the following points ring true for you, you may not be ready to begin your dating journey. So let’s be honest with ourselves and delve [...]

By | 2017-11-21T12:51:29+00:00 September 14th, 2017|Categories: Blog|0 Comments
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High School Sweethearts – The Good and the Bad

  Imagine finding your soulmate early on in life and simply never letting them go! Claudia Cardoso is a 23-year-old writer from South Africa. She’s been dating her high school sweetheart since she was 17. Here are some of her thoughts on this rare kind of relationship.     Telling people that you’re still dating your high school sweetheart is a somewhat magical feeling. After the “Wow! Really?” there is the one question most ask “How do you make it work?” There is no formula. Sometimes it boils down to luck and being at the right place at the right time. Dating your high school sweetheart is a heart-warming feeling. Like other relationships, there are pros and cons. You’ve just got to hope the good outweighs the bad. If so, then it’s pure bliss.   The Advantages These advantages make you realize that you were lucky enough to have found [...]

By | 2017-11-21T12:52:38+00:00 September 5th, 2017|Categories: Blog|0 Comments